ABOUT JOHNNY
My name is Johnny Kendhammer. Almost eight years ago I was overweight, depressed, addicted to video games, and stuck in a marriage that had fallen apart. When my wife came home and told me she was leaving, I was completely broken.
I felt shame for letting things get so bad. I thought I would never recover, never feel attractive again, and never find someone new. She had moved on with her life and I thought I had nothing. Every day I woke up distracted, alone, and focused only on what I had lost.
But eventually I learned how to rebuild. Through fitness, social growth, and relentless self development I transformed my body, my confidence, and my dating life. Now I coach men over 30 to do the same. You do not have to stay stuck. You do not have to stay alone. And you do not have to settle for the wrong relationship again.
My mission is simple: help men rebuild after divorce and become unstoppable.
I got married at 22 years old and thought I had found my soulmate. We were young, in love, and thought we could handle anything. I ignored the red flags and had no idea what it really meant to be a man, but I figured we would work it out.
As time went on our marriage had ups and downs. There were plenty of times we could have and maybe should have ended things, but we kept pushing forward. I got lazy and comfortable. I wasn’t working on myself, I spent hours on World of Warcraft, and I stayed the Nice Guy who was always seeking approval.
On the outside we looked happy. People thought we were a great couple. But behind the scenes we were both unhappy and drifting further apart.
We even made a scrapbook of our shared memories. Smiles, trips, family moments — looking like the perfect couple. But those pages did not show the truth. Behind the scenes we would fight, go days without talking, and more than once talk about moving out. Things were not what they seemed.
The picture on the left was me eight years ago at the height of my unhappiness. I weighed a bit over 220 pounds, had only one friend outside of my marriage, and had no goals or vision for what my life could be.
My days were on autopilot. I would wake up ten minutes before work, rush out the door, grab a Mountain Dew and Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups for breakfast, and spend the day zoning out on YouTube. As soon as I got home I would jump on video games until my wife came through the door. I was unconfident, depressed, and completely antisocial.
What you see on the right is the result of me taking action and refusing to stay stuck. I was not satisfied with sitting around, moping, and hoping she would come back. I made the decision to become better.
I stopped hiding behind distractions. I committed to fitness, pushed myself socially, and invested in relentless self development. That is how I went from feeling broken to living with confidence and clarity.
If I can make this kind of transformation, so can you.
The turning point came when I helped move my wife into her new apartment. I told myself I was just being a good guy, but the truth is I was hoping she would see what she was missing and come back. Instead, she told me she was already dating a co worker.
That crushed me, but it also woke me up. Around that time I came across Tony Robbins and realized no one was coming to save me. If I wanted a better life, I was going to have to create it myself.
I learned from other men that I did not have to stay overweight, unattractive, and stuck. I could change. I decided to sell the house, change my style, learn social skills, and leave small town Wisconsin.
I packed up and moved to Boston. For the first time in my life I was surrounded by new people and real opportunities to grow. I worked on my style and charisma and quickly noticed women responding to me differently. One day in the gym I struck up a conversation with a girl who later invited me to a party. That night I felt something I had never experienced before. People wanted me around. I was confident, having fun, and she was one of the most attractive women I had ever been with. That was the moment I realized I was no longer the shy, overweight guy from Wisconsin. I was becoming someone new.
My life now is nothing like it was before. I am living in Mexico, weighing under 180 pounds, and in the best shape of my life. I go to the gym at least four days a week, I use the sauna and cold plunge a few times each week, and I eat clean and healthy. Every day I push myself to approach at least one new woman as part of my ninety day challenge.
I have lived in some of the best cities in the United States and traveled abroad to places I never imagined back when I was stuck in Wisconsin. Those experiences gave me the chance to build my confidence, expand my social circle, and explore new cultures. Mexico has completely changed my life with close friends, healthier routines, warm weather, and the opportunity to connect with people from all over the world.
Through this process I discovered that I am capable of attracting women without drinking or hiding behind distractions. Approaching every day has pushed me outside my comfort zone and forced me to grow. Each time I put myself on the line, I become more confident and more masculine.
Now my mission is to help men over 30 who are recovering from divorce rebuild their confidence, their identity, and their ability to attract the women they want.
If you are going through divorce or heartbreak, I know the pain you are feeling. I know what it is like to lose yourself in a marriage, to wake up every day with no direction, and to wonder if you will ever feel attractive or confident again.
But you do not have to stay stuck. I am living proof that no matter how far you have fallen, you can rebuild your body, your confidence, and your identity.
That is why I created this community and coaching program. To give men over 30 the tools to rise from rock bottom and become unstoppable.